Before the Habit, There’s an Identity

I’ve read Atomic Habits twice—once in English and once in Spanish. I love it. The author’s ability to break habits (wanted or unwanted) into step-by-step, actionable tasks that help you stop or start something is genuinely helpful. So helpful, in fact, that I still use the skills myself and teach them to my clients. Recently,Continue reading “Before the Habit, There’s an Identity”

The Spell Caster’s Final Dance

To squeak open that door again, I pull back. It’s cool, and iron routed in a bow-like curvature—too impressive, too stately for a lowly guest like myself. I turn my face, looking away, but no other body part betrays me. I need a moment—10–20 beats of my heart—to settle into the top step, into theContinue reading “The Spell Caster’s Final Dance”

The Space Between Being Seen and Feeling Selfish

I met Paul in graduate school when he was overworked and burned out at Microsoft. Now, years after his retirement, he’s flown to New Jersey for a month to care for his aging parents, who need daily assistance. Thankfully, his sister joins the rotation soon, and he can return to Seattle and reenter his routine.Continue reading “The Space Between Being Seen and Feeling Selfish”