We long for closeness and attachment in spite of our fears and insecurities about doing so. They lurk inside us – buying their time – until they strike and grab hold of us as suddenly as an alligator on its prey.
I shared a concern with a client today; that they were coming to sessions but not applying what we worked on in their everyday life. The individual, clearly caught off guard, asked, “You don’t want me here?”
An insight came to me while working with a different client. By their realizing a need for reassurance from their partner I thought; I need more of that too.
Over a short conversation at lunch about my lite concern with Dave, I got the reassurance I sought, and like a Thanos snap of the finger, things were restored to balance.
That said, I am grateful for the minimal alignments my relationships require today, instead of the significant and sometimes inoperable repairs of the past.
And with regards to the client I mentioned above. I acknowledged their fear. And then I reiterated my own. This was followed by context and clarification that I believe provided each of us with a deeper understanding and security with one another.
All in all, I’d call it a success.
I think I’ll sleep well tonight. Love, Jaclynn
Going On 40 