I’m gonna go out on a not-so-long limb and say that ghosting (for those who don’t know, it’s the act of cutting off all communication and ignoring a person) is harmful.
The clients I work with talk about doing it and are having it happen to them, which makes me wonder, is this the norm?
And if so, does that mean it’s ok?
I think not! We can do better, and here’s how.
My advice in session usually goes something like this; Talk to the person directly, and tell them why you’re ending things.
Sure, doing this can be scary, but that isn’t an excuse not to.
When you say nothing, what gets communicated is, “I don’t see you as a person with needs or feelings. So acting this way is perfectly acceptable.”
Confronting others is a worthwhile skill to develop, whether it’s disappointing a salesman who won’t take no for an answer or telling a boss you won’t work overtime.
Full disclosure: I ghosted readers on my personal blog years ago because I couldn’t be honest about how overwhelmed and scared I felt writing for an audience.
I’m grateful for the growth I’ve made in this area.
Thanks for stopping by.
2 thoughts on “Ghosting: A Rant”
I have been hurt by others ghosting me. It’s something I would never do.
Thanks for the comment. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been hurt by this. My hope is more people understood how hurtful ghosting is, and will learn ways to communicate more effectively.
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